How to Know What’s Best for You and Stick to It

Stop Self-Sabotage Series: How to Know What’s Best for You and Stick to It

Welcome back to another empowering episode of the Stop Self-Sabotage series! If you’ve been following along, you already know we’ve been diving deep into the eight different ways we sabotage ourselves and, more importantly, why we do it. If this is your first time tuning in, don’t worry—this episode is packed with valuable insights, and I recap the key sabotages we’ve already covered.

Today, we’re focusing on sabotage number seven: the art of self-love. I absolutely love this topic—so much so that I’ve written a whole book about it! In this episode, we explore not only how to cultivate self-love but also how to develop the discernment needed to make decisions that serve your highest good.

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Are You Good at Knowing What’s Best for You?

Have you ever found yourself questioning your decisions, doubting whether they’re right for you, or second-guessing your path? Do you struggle to trust yourself and stick to what you know is best for you? If so, you’re not alone—and today’s episode is just what you need.

One of the major themes we discuss is how self-sabotage manifests when we’re unable to make decisions that align with our true desires. You might find yourself making choices that don’t serve you—whether it’s indulging in habits that no longer make you feel good or holding back from opportunities that could propel you forward.

How Do We Sabotage Ourselves?

Let’s start by looking at some of the key ways we sabotage ourselves. Here’s a quick recap of the principles we’ve covered so far:

1. Energy and Inspiration (The Innocent Adventurer): Are you lacking energy, feeling stuck, or overwhelmed by too many ideas? You may be sabotaging yourself by not connecting with what inspires you.
2. Concentration: Without focus, it’s impossible to manifest your dreams. Too much or too little concentration can lead to self-sabotage, whether by workaholism or lack of follow-through.
3. Receptivity: One of the biggest ways we sabotage ourselves is by not allowing ourselves to receive the good we say we want—whether it’s love, success, or happiness.
4. Creativity: This sabotage shows up as people-pleasing, drama cycles, or not trusting in your creative power. We all have the ability to create; it’s about using that power wisely.
5. Organization and Structure: Lack of discipline or structure in your life? That’s self-sabotage in action.
6. Intuition: Are you ignoring your inner voice? Your intuition is a powerful guide, but many of us don’t listen to it.

Self-Love and Discernment: The Key to Ending Self-Sabotage

Today’s principle is all about self-love—the foundation of making good decisions. Here’s the truth: when you truly love yourself, you develop a deeper connection with your intuition, which helps you discern what to keep in your life and what to let go of.

Self-love isn’t just about pampering yourself or saying positive affirmations. It’s about making tough, self-loving decisions, even when they’re difficult in the short term. These decisions might disappoint others, but when they come from a place of love, they’re ultimately best for everyone involved.

For example, leaving a toxic relationship or job may cause temporary disappointment for others, but it frees everyone up to find a healthier, more fulfilling path. True self-love means understanding that your well-being serves the greater good.

Breaking Free from Codependency

One of the shadow aspects of this principle is codependency—whether it’s with people or substances. Are you dependent on others for validation or struggling to break free from a habit that no longer serves you? This is a sign of self-sabotage. By cultivating self-love, you strengthen your ability to stand on your own and make decisions that align with your highest self.

Practical Questions for Self-Reflection

So, how do you start applying these principles in your life? Here are some questions to reflect on:

1. Am I ready to stop doing things that aren’t good for me?
   • Whether it’s unhealthy eating habits, toxic relationships, or self-doubt, it’s time to let go of behaviors that no longer serve you.
2. Am I ready to be myself without shame?
   • Let go of the second-guessing. Who made you feel like you needed to doubt yourself? It’s time to reclaim your confidence.
3. Am I ready to stop repeating patterns of thought and behavior that are holding me back?
   • Take an honest look at what’s holding you back. What do you need to release to move forward?
4. Am I cluttering my life with indecision?
   • Clear out the mental and physical clutter that’s stopping you from making decisive, self-loving choices.

The Power of Discernment

The heart of self-love is discernment—knowing what to keep in your life and what to cut away. When you love yourself enough to make these decisions, you not only enrich your own life but also create space for more love, joy, and abundance to flow in.

This episode will help you learn the tools and mindset shifts you need to deepen your self-love and, in turn, make better decisions that align with your true desires.

So, are you ready to stop sabotaging yourself? Tune in, take notes, and reflect on the questions above. And remember, making self-loving decisions is the most powerful way to move closer to the life you truly want.

I hope this post gives you a great starting point for reflection and action. If this resonated with you, I invite you to explore my book on self-love, where we dive even deeper into these principles. Let’s continue the journey of transformation together! Order at http://www.laurenjobson.com/bookorder