Recently, I have been thinking about how easy it is to focus on everything we don’t want to have in our lives that we stop knowing what we do want. It’s too easy to think about the weight we want to lose that we forget how we want to feel when we are fit and healthy. It’s so easy to think about the stress we don’t want to have at work that we forget how we want to feel and all the things we want to accomplish and why. It’s too easy to think about the money we don’t have and how expensive life can be instead of thinking about how abundant we are to have everything we have now. Too much on the debt and not enough energy focussed on the opportunities.
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Focusing on what we don’t want, which comes from negative emotions, negative self-talk and limiting beliefs about ourselves, creates motivation driven by the negative. It’s also called “moving away from”, as it is moving away from pain. It is the stick – the punishment that the cart driver would use to move their horse forward. Knowing what we don’t want is helpful to kickstart us into action. But when we continue to be driven by the negative, it creates inconsistent behaviours and results. For example, if we focus on losing weight, once some results have been achieved, and weight has been lost, it is easy to default back to old patterns of behaviour because there is now less motivation to keep doing the new behaviours. This becomes yo-yo dieting. We lose the weight, only to put it back on again and become motivated only when there is weight to lose. A similar example is with money – if we are motivated to make money to pay off debts, once any debt is paid off, motivation decreases. So, we overspend the money again just to find our motivation once we have more debt. We can only create consistent behaviours and results when we are driven by how good it feels to have more of what we want, like being a healthier weight and enjoying the food and exercise we choose. Or to earn more than we need and to keep focussing on how great it is to have an abundance of money. This is the horse who is driven to move forward by the reward of the carrot. When we focus on all the great reasons why we want to have what we want, once we start showing results, we are continually driven to keep it up. To have even more of what we want. So, my question to you today is: What do you want? (and it’s okay if you don’t know because you only know what you don’t want. Let’s work this out together and learn the 8 steps needed to manifest anything in this free challenge – click the picture below to join us!)